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10 Stress Reducing Habits

February 12, 2013

Healthy habits can protect you from the harmful effects of stress. Here are 10 positive healthy habits you may want to develop.

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  1. Talk with family and friends.
    A daily dose of friendship is great medicine. Call or write your friends and family to share your feelings, hopes and joys.
  2. Engage in daily physical activity.
    Regular physical activity relieves mental and physical tension. Physically active adults have lower risk of depression and loss of mental functioning. Physical activity can be a great source of pleasure, too. Try walking, swimming, biking or dancing every day.
  3. Accept the things you cannot change.
    Don’t say, “I’m too old.” You can still learn new things, work toward a goal, love and help others.
  4. Remember to laugh.
    Laughter makes you feel good. Don’t be afraid to laugh out loud at a joke, a funny movie or a comic strip, even when you’re alone.
  5. Give up the bad habits.
    Too much alcohol, cigarettes or caffeine can increase stress. If you smoke, decide to quit now.
  6. Slow down.
    Try to “pace” instead of “race.” Plan ahead and allow enough time to get the most important things done.
  7. Get enough sleep.
    Try to get six to eight hours of sleep each night. If you can’t sleep, take steps to help reduce stress and depression. Physical activity also may improve the quality of sleep.
  8. Get organized.
    Use “to do” lists to help you focus on your most important tasks. Approach big tasks one step at a time. For example, start by organizing just one part of your life — your car, desk, kitchen, closet, cupboard or drawer.
  9. Practice giving back.
    Volunteer your time or return a favor to a friend. Helping others helps you.
  10. Try not to worry. The world won’t end if your grass isn’t mowed or your kitchen isn’t cleaned. You may need to do these things, but today might not be the right time.
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Change Your Altitude

December 10, 2012

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Imagine flying in a balloon and looking at yourself and your situation from a higher altitude.

 

An intelligent and motivated executive may be negatively impacting their co-workers without realizing it. A small business owner may have a vision of what is possible; they invest countless hours and energy to achieve their vision, along the way that vision may get clouded in the din of day to day operations. In both cases, a different perspective can be very effective.

 

This lack of clarity may cause the impact of your actions to not be aligned with your intentions. According to a 2010 study, “senior leader reputation can drive employee commitment by as much as 41%.”

 

In these cases it is helpful to partner with someone who can help us see more clearly.  A trusted adviser or coach can work with you to change your perspective. Executive coaches use a process to help you take an elevated view of things. A skilled coach can help you see with your mind’s eye, your interactions at work or in your personal life. With practice you will be able to adjust your approach to bring your behavior in alignment with your intentions. 

 

In addition to working with a coach there are others ways to change the altitude of your perspective. One highly effective way to get an elevated view of your reputation and to see things more clearly is through a 360 evaluation. This formal process allows you to compare your perspective of your reputation and compare it to up 16 other people. You may choose from among direct reports, peers, family members and more.

 

A less formal method of seeing yourself and your situations more clearly is from trusted and honest advisers. Work with people who know you well and ask them to lend their unbiased feedback.

 

Executives will benefit from taking time to gauge the impact they are having within the organization. Working with a coach or trusted adviser will provide the change in altitude necessary improve your results and will help you be more effective in whatever role you are in.

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The 5 Things You Can Do to Lower Your 2012 Business Taxes

December 10, 2012

Reblogged from Scott W. Taylor, CPA:

The sun is setting on the 2012 tax year and there are many changes to the tax code on the horizon. Business owners all across the country should be aware of the changes that lie ahead. This is not the year to sit on the fence about tax decisions.  Taxpayers should coordinate their tax planning immediately with a tax advisor to plan for the new tax laws that are going into effect or not being extended from 2012.

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Scott is an exceptional tax adviser. I highly recommend him!
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Remember that overnight success usually

September 10, 2012

Remember that overnight success usually takes about fifteen years. -Anonymous

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What Sets You Off? Emotional Intelligence Experiement

September 2, 2011

So what is it that sets you off? Becoming aware of what your triggers are, or what pushes your buttons is a great way to increase your emotional intelligence. We all have something or someone who drives us crazy. One of my triggers is, when someone tells me to “calm down”. It seems that approach usually creates the opposite effect in me. Think of Adam Sandler in the movie “Anger Management”. Other triggers for me are public criticism, my kids leaving their shoes where they take them off, picking on each other or placing blame, borrowing things and not putting them back and over-drafting my checking account.

Most of my life I have avoided looking at my behavior too closely. Why? Because it is not comfortable for me. If something upset me I usually repressed my feelings or “powered through”. Not only is that not healthy, it prevented me from learning how to better manage my emotions and feelings. Knowing who and what sets you off is essential to getting control of your behavior. When you become aware of your triggers, you are more likely to stay in control and respond to challenging situations instead of reacting.

The next step is to understand why these triggers set you off. I have found for example, when I am frustrated with some of my children’s behavior, it is usually for behavior that I see in myself. Ironically, I seem to get most frustrated with my children that are most like me in behavior and temperament.

Another source of frustration for me is, because I understand emotional intelligence, it is all the more frustrating when my emotions get triggered. In other words, when I get mentally hijacked, this hijacks me even more because I know better. Kidding aside, knowing your triggers and their sources is a great place to start to control your behavior and emotion. This will allow you to apply self-management techniques as you learn them.

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People Watching: Emotional Intelligence Experiment

August 31, 2011

One strategy to increase emotional intelligence is to observe behavior in other people. I have found two places that I enjoy watching behaviors in people. One is in films and the other is at airports.

Movies and television are a good place for me to identify behaviors that I recognize in myself. It seems that behaviors are often exaggerated for effect. This helps me  identify how people react under pressure. Then I can practice identifying behavior triggers that might affect me. I notice that I get uncomfortable in awkward or tense situations. My wife can always tell if I am getting nervous. If she is holding my hand, I heat up and she has to let go. I also get fidgety and if I am watching television at home, I sometimes get up and go to the refrigerator for a drink which always elicits a laugh from her.

It seems that the place I usually feel the most uncomfortable is during sitcoms or romantic comedy’s where the guy is making a fool of himself. Hugh Grant always makes me nervous because of his halting and nervous style. His stuttering in awkward moments can have an immediate impact on me. Over the past several weeks, I have made a conscious effort to pay attention to my feelings and reactions in movies and I have become more aware of my feelings and therefore am more able to manage how I react.

Another place I like to watch people is at the airport. This is a great place to observe people under stress. Two weeks ago just after I had taken my emotional intelligence assessment, I traveled to Houston to conduct training for one of my clients. On my way home to Las Vegas, I was getting ready to board the plane. The customer service representative taking our boarding passes stopped a couple in front of me and told them that their carry-on was too large and would have to be checked. The man became irate and began shouting expletives. He said that he travels all the time with no problem carrying his bag on. He had gone into a full-blown emotional hijack. The representative was adamant that he must leave the bag at the end of the jet-way.  He continued down the jet-way swearing and proceeded to board the plane with his luggage ignoring the direction he had been given.

This couple was assigned the seat right behind me. The man was visibly upset. His wife was consoling him and I heard him say, “I have to calm down”. I was pretty disgusted with his behavior. I really wanted to tell him what I thought. Instead I  suggested that he take deep slow breaths, which is one of the best ways to regain control of emotions. Oxygen helps fight the chemicals that flood our system when “fight or flight” kicks in. The more I observe people, the more I become aware of my own feelings increasing my ability to manage my emotions.

The next opportunity I had to observe people at the airport happened last Friday.  I was boarding a plane in Chicago on my way to Jackson, Mississippi. This time I was flying Southwest where you line up by number. I was seat A36 and the person who had A35 was right in front of me. As I stood in line I was profiling the other passenger in line just to practice. Soon, a well dressed woman who I guessed was a high dominant personality got in line next to and slightly in front of me. I noticed her boarding pass said she was A39 which should be behind me. Since I am also high dominant, I wanted to tell her to take a step back to her proper place in line. Instead I decided to hold my boarding pass so that she could see it. I wanted to see what she would do. I decided that no matter how she acted, I would not respond and let it go. She never looked around to see if she was lined up in the proper order. She stood firm in her spot and as we boarded she went right ahead of me. When I told my wife about this, who is highly flexible and steady, she said that person used to be me. That was very hard for me to believe. I may have  a dominant personality, yet I thought I have been fairly aware and sensitive. Apparently not then, hopefully I am more aware now.

The last event happened Sunday on my way home from Jackson to Las Vegas. My itinerary said the flight was direct. I soon discovered we would stop in Houston and Los Angeles. I felt this was a bait and switch by the airline. When we arrived in LA, we were told that our flight was terminated and we would be rerouted on another flight three hours later. Apparently, hurricane Irene was to blame. Four people were on the original flight from Jackson. Each of us was anxious to get to Las Vegas sooner. We were told that there was a flight leaving in one hour that was full, however, we could go on standby. We arrived at the gate counter which was vacant. Soon many of the passengers that were waiting for our canceled flight begin to line up behind us. People were tense and I watched the frustration level rise from the front of the line.

A gate operator came to the counter to call for help. He said to the people on the other end of the phone he needed help because an angry mob was lined up out the door and he was afraid for his life. The women next to me who had been on the flight from Jackson, said to me that she was offended that he was saying we were an angry mob. She thought we were calm and civil. I was observing all these behaviors and I was doing a pretty good job staying relaxed and in control. I said to the woman next to me, I was sure the gate operator only said those things so he would get a more immediate response from his supervisors. I essence, he was doing us a favor. The gate operator returned to the counter as the phone rang and he repeated the dire situation imploring them to send help immediately. When he hung up, he said he did that to get their attention. The woman looked at me and smiled. As it turned out, all five of us were able to get on the earlier flight and things worked out great given the circumstances.

If you have had similar experiences becoming more aware of your behavior or the behavior of others, please share them with me. If you have had experiences with me where I have been unaware of how I impacted you, I would like to hear about it, I think.

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Face Your Fears

August 20, 2011

I know everyone has challenges. Some of us may be struggling with fears about loved ones who are sick. Perhaps we are having relationship, emotional or financial challenges. Maybe you are concerned about your job security or you are afraid that you are not having the results you deserve.

During these difficult times it is easy to complain to others about our condition. Sometimes we do this to garner sympathy from others, or just get a burden off our chest. It is natural for us to desire the support and understanding of people close to us. It is important that we do not dwell on our problems or let our fears consume our thoughts. When we do, we actually help bring about the thing that we fear. It is possible that by sharing our fears too much may reinforce our behavior and the behaviors of others that bring about the fear.

I do believe it is good to reach out in our times of challenge. However, I submit that we must avoid the negative complaining that fuels fear and focus on thoughts and action that builds faith. For example, a co-worker recently asked each of us at work to think positive thoughts or pray for her mother who was receiving her final chemo-therapy treatment and check up for cancer. I know my friend was concerned about her mother and the chance that her cancer would persist. However, instead of focusing on the fact that the cancer may persist, she focused on getting everyone around thinking that her mothers health would improve. In fact it did, her faith and actions were rewarded.

I understand that our faith may not always be rewarded with these positive outcomes. I believe our faith and positive outlook must persist regardless of the outcome. This will allow us to have the greatest fulfillment in our life. We will have the attitude that we need to face the challenges of life. We will get through the difficulties of life that we will all face. When we face our fears and difficulties with faith and act accordingly, we will begin to have the results we deserve: Great relationships, health, wealth, confidence, happiness, etc.

Below are some thoughts to consider:

We come this way but once. We can either tiptoe through life and hope that we get to death without being too badly bruised or we can live a full, complete life achieving our goals and realizing our wildest dreams. -Bob Proctor

I have insecurities. But whatever I’m insecure about, I don’t dissect it, but I’ll go after it and say, “what am I afraid of?” I bet the average successful person
can tell you they’ve failed so much more than they’ve had success. I’ve
had far more failures than I’ve had successes. With every commercial
I’ve gotten, there were 200 I didn’t get. You have to go after what you
are afraid of. -Kevin Sorbo

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Living at Cause

August 20, 2011

April 8th, 2011

Today I received an email from a friend who I had spoken to about a year ago about the importance of living at cause. He wrote: “The transition to living in cause is full of surprises and continues everyday.

I often think of the moment when you pulled me aside and “warned” me about the difficulties and pitfalls of changing from living in cause to living in effect.

Thank you for your words that day and know the lessons I learned at Rapport are with me still.”

Living at cause means you make the choice about how you act and respond to the circumstance of life. It means that you are the cause of the outcomes in your life. On the other hand, being in effect means circumstances affect the outcomes of your life and there is no choice.

My friend had graduated from one of our leadership classes last year and made the declaration that he was now going to live at cause in every situation. Meaning, no matter what life dished out, he was going to choose to look at it in a positive light. He was going to be the master and commander of his life.

You may think that such a life perspective is only for the Pollyanna’s of the world. There is too much that happens in life that is out of our control. I explained to my friend that his commitment was admirable and I warned him that it would not be easy and it worth it. I teach the importance of living at cause and it is difficult for me. I find that I go into effect when I do not live according to my core values, especially when I know better! Then I remember, I am at choice.

I believe that we determine our own outcomes of life. True, we cannot choose all the circumstances in our life, we can choose our responses to those circumstances. Stephen Covey states that 10% of life is what happens to us, 90% of life is how we choose to respond. This is a difficult doctrine because it means that we cannot blame spouses, bosses, friends, enemies or God for what happens to us. It means we are accountable and we cannot deflect blame.

The email from my friend is more poignant to me, because today is the funeral of our mutual friend. This friend leaves us after losing his fight with cancer. He leaves behind a wife and young children who depended upon him for their support. At times like these, it is truly difficult to stay at cause. So why not just give in and be in effect? That is an option for each of us. Instead, I choose to do what I can to support his family. I choose to believe that my friend is no longer in pain. I choose to believe that as difficult as it will be for his wife and children to move forward, they may choose to do so and as a result, their lives will be blessed by the strength they develop. They will always have the memory of a beloved husband and father. Soon enough, I choose to believe they will all be joyously reunited. I choose to live at cause, it is worth the effort.

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Experiential vs.Traditional Training

August 20, 2011

Rapport Leadership International applies proven guidelines for adult learning. There is a great amount of research that supports adults learn best by experiential versus traditional training.  We recommend organizations and individuals choose a training provider that will help students be able to immediately apply what they learn to their daily responsibilities.  Finally we recommend using a provider that has a proven track record.

Please consider the following when evaluating training alternatives:

Experiential Learning vs. Traditional Training:

There is a major difference between traditional and experiential training. Refer to the book Telling Ain’t Training http://www.google.com/books?id=S1ibbJx-qBcC&lpg=PP1&dq=Telling%20Ain’t%20Training&pg=PA11#v=onepage&q=Telling%20Ain’t%20Training&f=false

http://www.astd.org/content/publications/ASTDPress/bookSearch/TellingAintTraining.htm

This book tackles the three universal and persistent questions about the profession:

  • How do learners learn
  • Why do learners learn
  • How do you make sure that learning sticks

In his article “Educational Ideas Still Worth A Good Look?” former teacher John Taylor Gatto  states, “I’ve noticed a fascinating phenomenon in my twenty-five years of teaching – that schools and schooling are increasingly irrelevant to the great enterprises of the planet. “ The article goes on to discuss the following topics:

  • No one believes anymore that scientists are trained in science classes or politicians in civics classes or poets in English classes.
  • Traditional schools are limited in their ability to meet  the markets demand for creative thinking

Rapport Leadership International believes in education. We also believe that the best educators understand the limitations of traditional teaching techniques and they come up creative ways to create more effective outcomes.

Interactive training techniques can be used to fully engage adult students. This type of training is considered to be highly effective, because adults are afforded the opportunity to learn through active participation and apply their learning to real life situations. Unlike more traditional, classroom learning environments, where an instructor tells students what they need to know, interactive training challenges adult students to participate directly in their own learning experience. This type of experiential training is learner-centered.

Rapport implements interactive training techniques which are supported by experts such as Gatto, which include:

Case Study Techniques

  • This is a time-tested method for training students to solve real problems faced by organizations and use their own life experiences to come up with viable answers. Role Playing
  • Role-playing exercises demand that the student act out a particular situation to achieve a predetermined objective, and practice desired behaviors.

Behavior Modeling

  • Behavior modeling is similar to role play, with one main exception. In behavior modeling, the student is shown how they are expected to behave in a structured scenario, prior to the student’s first practice run.

Business Simulations

  • Business simulations that mirror an entire company’s operations can be used to teach students about decision making, and the impact a single decision can make on the entire organization.

Read more: Interactive Adult Training Techniques | eHow.com http://www.ehow.com/info_8113103_interactive-adult-training-techniques.html#ixzz1K0uzFpBE

Bersin & Associates http://www.bersin.com

American Society of Training & Development http://www.astd.org , http://store.astd.org/Default.aspx?tabid=167&ProductId=19291

http://www.shrm.org/searchcenter/Pages/Results.aspx?k=Traditional%20vs.%20Experiential%20Training

Additional proven experiential training principles applied by Rapport Leadership International:

  • Adults learn more when they participate in the learning process
  • Adults learn best by doing
  • Adults learn best when new information is reinforced and repeated
  • Adults learn better when information is presented in different ways

 Three Kinds of “Learning Exchanges” RLI Applies During Training:

  • Participant to Participant: “Participant to participant” learning exchange recognizes that participants can learn from one another’s experiences. Participant to participant exchanges should be a key feature of the training.
  • Participant to Facilitator: Facilitators can learn as much from training sessions as participants do. On many subjects, a group of participants may have more extensive knowledge and experience in certain areas than a facilitator.
  • Facilitator to Participant: Classroom learning needs structure. A facilitator’s role is to guide discussions, encourage participation, draw out and/or add information as needed, and highlight key issues and points.

General Principles RLI Applies:
The best training programs take advantage of the following characteristics of adult learners:

  • Adults are self-motivated.
  • Adults expect to gain information that has immediate application to their lives.
  • Adults learn best when they are actively engaged.
  • Adult learning activities are most effective when they are designed to allow students to develop both technical knowledge and general skills.
  • Adults learn best when they have time to interact, not only with the instructor but also with each other.
  • Adults learn best when asked to share each other’s personal experiences at work and elsewhere.

Participatory Methods of Instruction
Participatory training methods draw on participants’ own experiences. They encourage teamwork and group problem solving.

Participatory methods 1) draw on participants’ own knowledge and experience about work related challenges; 2) emphasizes  learning through doing without relying on reading; and 3) create a comfortable learning experience for everyone.

Samples of Participatory Methods
RLI uses draw participatory training methods draw on the trainee’s own experiences to share their knowledge with all learners. We stimulate valuable exchanges between workers and trainers.  The following are examples of methods we use to encourage trainees to participate and be actively engaged in class:

  • Ice-breakers
  • Risk maps
  • Role playing
  • Processes
  • Small group exercises
  • “Trigger” visuals
  • Brainstorming
  • Demonstrations and hands-on activities
  • Participatory lectures

Training Materials
Keep in mind that visual aids – such as PowerPoints, handouts, overheads, and flip charts – play a supportive role to the main teaching technique and do not substitute for teaching.

Using PowerPoint.  PowerPoint is not a teaching technique – it is a visual aid that can be used to enhance learning, just like flip charts, overheads, and handouts. PowerPoint will not, in and of itself, improve student learning. It is the way that instructors use PowerPoint that can encourage learning. Deciding when, where, and how it can be used appropriately is the key.

Using Flip charts- Flip charts, like PowerPoints, are visual aids that are used to facilitate, document conclusions and agreement, create action lists or bring more clarity to the learning experience.  It is an interactive and flexible aid that promotes interaction and engagement between the facilitator and the participants.

See http://www.osha.gov/dte/sharwood/best-practices.html

Rapport Leadership’s experiential training has proven results

Our immersive training classes cannot be duplicated by a community college or most training companies. We work with educators all over the US and Canada. They know how we can enhance what they do, we do what they cannot. Before we began working with school districts in Canada, they wanted to confirm our claims that our training would create sustainable behavior changes. We had the University of Calgary Division of applied Psychology study our Teen Leadership class, which is nearly identical to our Leadership Breakthrough One  class. The resulting behavior changes they recorded were so significant; they ran the tests again to confirm they had not made a mistake. The results were identical. The results were written up in the Canadian Journal of School Psychology.  Even the academics are impressed with what Rapport is able to achieve.

http://www.rapportempowerededucation.com/images/stories/downloads/u%20of%20c%20poster%20international%20conference%202.pdf

http://www.rapportempowerededucation.com/images/stories/downloads/u%20of%20c%20poster%20international%20conference%201.pdf

http://www.rapportempowerededucation.com/in-the-news/44-university-of-calgary-study-the-results-are-in.html

Rapport has the right experience.

Rapport Leadership International has invested over 27 years in developing our training approach and curriculum. We have participated in training over 10,000 organizations. Our goal in working with your people is to help them develop skills that they will immediately be able to apply on the business floor. We call it “out the door and on the floor!”

 

Case Study: Victories Casino

In January of 2003, Victories Casino in Petoskey, MI took this best practice approach to measuring service in their organization.  Victories Casino measured both customer satisfaction of their top players and employee satisfaction in January to create their baseline.

Victories Casino used the customer relationship management company Profitable Customers to measure customer satisfaction of their top customers and employee satisfaction. The Simmons Group (Now Rapport Leadership International) performed customer service training for all staff, management and supervisor for their management team.

Data was compiled from the baseline customer satisfaction survey and the employee satisfaction survey from January 2003. The customer service training was developed using the data from the baselines and input from both the executive and management team.

The collective data from the baselines suggested that customer service training needed to incorporate teamwork, communication skills, building loyalty, accountability and having fun at work. The executive team provided input to finalize a training program for managers. The management team working with The Simmons Group/RLI identified content to address specific behaviors that they believed key to providing exceptional customer service.

Customer service training was designed to address two areas:  How employees felt they were being treated as internal customers; this being the management training, and what service behaviors the property could improve on according to their top players; this being the entire property training. 

The managers, as role models, were the key to reinforcing the training on the floor and needed to be “on board” with the program from the start. In all management training, we placed a strong emphasis on weaving the employee satisfaction survey messages into the management training. It was critical that management received the “message” from the results of the employee satisfaction survey, while still maintaining the confidentiality of the actual surveys.

After the first management training took place, property training (“everyone training including managers”) was conducted every two weeks for approximately 4 months.  Again, messages from the employee’s survey were woven through every class the managers attended.

Each class was 3 – 4 hours in length and everyone attended a new class approximately every two weeks.  This training schedule allowed for both employees and managers to practice the behaviors they had been taught between training classes. Each subsequent training class started with success stories about how employees and managers had successfully applied what they learned in the previous class.  In some cases the success stories were what they would not do again!

The next customer service satisfaction survey was administered in July of 2003, approximately 6 months after the initial baselines were measured. The results, by any standard, were impressive.

In the two important service categories of friendliness of employees and promptness of service, top players rated employee friendliness 3 percent higher in the categories rated above “good,” and promptness of service 5 percent higher in the those same categories.

These percentage points were significant in terms of increase. In the baseline customer service satisfaction survey the friendliness rating was 96% for the categories rated above good and in the second survey it moved to 99%. Respectively the promptness of service score rose from 90% to 95%.

In the decision making process, organizational outcomes as determined by the client are crucial. Manager and supervisors attending a leadership training once a year is not gong to make as large of an impact as one that use repetition and feedback, building on each of the previous learning’s. Repetition and feedback will help create new habits. Imagine the impact 80 good mentors will have on the business.

By choosing a traditional training, research shows that students retain approximately 25% of what they learn and apply only approximately 20% of that. On the other hand, students retain approximately 75% of experiential training and apply approximately 50% of that knowledge. Return on investment with RLI experiential training which is behavior based, will be greater compared to return on investment with traditional learning which is information based. Information based training does not change behavior. Cognitive understanding does not mean people will apply what they understand. Based on client outcomes, RLI creates focused process that  allow the student to internalize the information quickly and apply it in their own lives which creates substantial behavioral changes. We invite you to experience the difference.

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My Emotional Intelligence Experiment

August 19, 2011

Improve Your Emotional Intelligence

In my job, I help organizations and individuals everyday to develop behaviors that will create optimum results. In my conversations with clients, the topic of emotional intelligence (EQ) comes up a great deal. Over the last decade, emotional intelligence has proven to be a commodity that leaders are looking to increase in themselves and their people. A highly simplified definition of emotional intelligence is the ability to function effectively under stress or in difficult situations. It is also an understanding or awareness of how our behaviors impact the people around us. Data shows that 90% of top performers have high EQ.

As a teacher and consultant, I have a desire and an obligation to constantly work on my behaviors. With that in mind, I decided I would take a closer look at my EQ and track my progress as I work to increase my EQ. Since I am in a profession that teaches EQ I figured this would be fairly easy. I should have known that looking closely at one’s own behavior objectively is never easy.

One of the first things I did was buy the book “Emotional Intelligence 2.0″ by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves. In the book there is an access code to take an online assessment. I took the assessment while I was in West Yellowstone on August 5th while I was at a family reunion. I figured that a family reunion was a great place to practice emotional intelligence skills like patience. The assessment is not very long and is only accurate if you are brutally honest with yourself. Knowing that my self-assessment objectivity might be lacking, I turned to my wife for brutal honesty. Sure enough, she more than compensated for my rose colored view of myself.

The assessment gives you a score based on your answers from 0-100. The scale is as follows: 90-100 Means EQ is a strength to capitalize on; 80-89 Is a strength to build on, 70-79 With a little improvement, this could become a strength; 60-69 Something you should work on; 59 and Below A concern you must address. The score assesses four areas which I will discuss later. My average score was 69. I was somewhat surprised by the low number. Needless to say, my response was less than emotionally intelligence.

Kidding aside, I feel that the score reflected my EQ levels of the not to distant past. I found it interesting that my wife encouraged me to score myself based on how I perceive I used to be. So once I recognized that, I rationalized (through rose colored glasses) that I probably was higher than a 69…more like a 70. Anyway, the cool thing about the assessment is that it gives you strategies that are customized for you to help you bring your EQ score up.

My purpose is to write about my experiences and progress as I work to raise my score. Your feedback and encouragement are appreciated. Well, as long as you see things the way I do.

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